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SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES OF CAREGIVING - March 29th workshop at Friends In Deed

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES OF CAREGIVING

Copies of this card are now available at Friends In Deed thanks to EmblemHealth.

Restorative Yoga Workshop with Nick Potenzieri - December 1st at 7pm

Don't miss this article published in The Body written by Roger Kimpton.

To read Roger Kimpton's article in The Body, click on the link below the photo.

Friends In Deed: 20 Years of Service

HIV-Positive Writer Roger Kimpton Reflects on the Impact That New York City's Friends In Deed Has Had in the HIV/AIDS Community for the Past Two Decades

By Roger Kimpton
From The Body

 

Friends In Deed: 20 Years of Service 

 

Six SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES OF CAREGIVING - Oct. 6th workshop at Friends In Deed

FRIENDS IN DEED

SPECIAL WORKSHOP

 

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES

OF CAREGIVING

with 

CYNTHIA BURKE, KATE LAMB & SHEILA WARNOCK

 

DATE:    Thursday, October 6, 2011

TIME:    7:00pm – 9:00pm

PLACE:    FRIENDS IN DEED

              594 Broadway, Suite 706

PHONE:    212-925-2009           

Are you a caregiver struggling to find ways to take care of yourself and another at the same time?

Do you feel that even taking time to come to this workshop feels difficult?

If you are a caregiver looking for ways to experience greater sustainability then this workshop was designed just for you. During this interactive workshop we will explore the "Six Spiritual Principles of Caregiving" and learn how these principles can sustain us and help to mitigate caregiver burnout.(The "Six Spiritual Principles of Caregiving" are listed below.)

It’s really possible to be a healthy caregiver!

 

   

Cynthia Burke, Director of Outreach and Big Group Facilitator, is an ordained interfaith minister and a founding staff member of Friends In Deed. Cynthia has been facilitating Big Groups for several years and remains actively involved in the New York City Family Caregiver Coalition on behalf of Friends In Deed. 

 

  

Kate Lamb is a crisis counselor at Friends In Deed and has been counseling caregivers for the past two years.

  

Sheila Warnock, Founder & President of ShareTheCaregiving, Inc. Co-author Share The Care, (How To Organize a Group to Care for Someone Who Is Seriously Ill), Simon & Schuster Fireside Books, 1995, 2004.  In 2003, Sheila left an advertising career to combine her life experiences as a three-time primary caregiver and co-author, with her creative skills, to establish a non-profit organization focused on solving a global caregiving crisis.  The mission is to provide a “better quality of life” for both care recipients and their caregivers. Share the Caregiving Website

 

WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU.

All services are free of charge.  Donations are gratefully accepted.

 All workshops are subject to change or cancellation, please call to confirm.

 

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES OF CAREGIVING

1.) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

Caring for friends or family members who are very ill, helpless, fragile, or frightened, can be exhausting physically, emotionally and spiritually.  That’s why it’s essential to take care of yourself first, so that you’re able to care for others out of your overflow.  One way to take care of yourself is to come to Friends In Deed for support.

2.) FOCUS ON CARE NOT CURE

As a caregiver, it’s important to recognize the distinction between healing and curing.  In the simplest terms, curing is changing what is (i.e. the elimination of a disease) while healing implies the ability to relate differently to things as they are.  Your role as a caregiver is to deal with things as they are and be clear about the task at hand.

3.) WORK TO BE IN THE MOMENT

Getting caught in what’s happened in the past, or what you imagine will happen in the future, robs you of the resources you need for the present moment of action.  In addition, with some caregiving situations, you may be faced with circumstances that elicit your fears. The person for whom you’re caring may already be dealing with his or her own fear.  You don’t want to add your anxiety to the mix.  Staying in the present moment is great a way to help tame your fears.

4.) EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS APPROPRIATELY

As a caregiver, you may find people behaving in ways that are difficult to handle.  First of all, it’s important to acknowledge that usually the circumstances of the illness are creating the behavior.  Your job is to not take it personally.  However, if you’re in a situation where you are compelled to express your feelings, be sure to say how you feel without making the person you’re caring for “wrong.”  The best way to do this is with “I” messages, not “You” messages.  (i.e. “I get the feeling that…” instead of “You make me feel…” )

5.) SEEK TO FIND MEANING IN THE EXPERIENCE

Even in the most difficult and challenging situations you can find meaning and value and purpose.  You can always see that the roles could be reversed and imagine how you would like to be treated.  One of the things you’ll discover, as a caregiver, is that the quality of life is not determined by the circumstances but how you and the person for whom you care perceive the circumstances.

6.) UNDERSTAND THAT NOTHING IS GOING WRONG

Given our culture, this may be the toughest principle to understand.  It’s very easy to get caught in “if only she’d had taken the test sooner…” or “the doctor should have…” or “why didn’t he…” Those are very human reactions to frustrating and sad circumstances.  Spiritually speaking everything is unfolding exactly as it must at all times.  We don’t know how the story is supposed to go.  We reduce suffering all around if we can be with what is objectively, impartially and without judgment.  There is real power in not having to fix or change anything.  

 

 

 

 

 

WRITING TO HEAL, WRITING TO GROW - Workshop on August 18th at 7pm with Nina Howes

FRIENDS IN DEED

SPECIAL WORKSHOP

 

WRITING TO HEAL, WRITING TO GROW 

with

NINA HOWES

 

DATE:        THURSDAY, AUGUST 18, 2011

TIME:        7:00PM-9:00PM

PLACE:        FRIENDS IN DEED

                  594 BROADWAY, SUITE 706

PHONE:       (212) 925-2009              

 

Research shows that writing about stressful life issues or events can help people relieve stress, have a more positive outlook, and even boost their immune systems.

You don’t have to be a “writer” to participate.  This workshop is for anyone looking for new ways to address the challenges of life-threatening illness, care giving, or grief over the death of a loved one.  We will have the opportunity to share and perform our pieces to teach and inspire others.

 

NINA HOWES is a nurse, a political activist, and a writer.  Her stories have been published by University of Iowa Press and Kaplan Publishing.  Her plays have been presented off-off Broadway; and at the NYC Public Libraries with Around the Block.  She loves theatre; and has performed and produced off-off Broadway.

 

WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU.

All services are free of charge.  Donations are gratefully accepted.
All workshops are subject to change or cancellation, please call to confirm.

 

SPECIAL WORKSHOP: Six Spiritual Principles of Caregiving - July 28th at 7pm

FRIENDS IN DEED

SPECIAL WORKSHOP

 

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES

OF CAREGIVING

with 

CYNTHIA BURKE, KATE LAMB & SHEILA WARNOCK

 

DATE:    Thursday, July 28, 2011

TIME:    7:00pm – 9:00pm

PLACE:    FRIENDS IN DEED

              594 Broadway, Suite 706

PHONE:    212-925-2009           

 

Are you a caregiver struggling to find ways to take care of yourself and another at the same time?

Do you feel that even taking time to come to this workshop feels difficult?

If you are a caregiver looking for ways to experience greater sustainability then this workshop was designed just for you. During this interactive workshop we will explore the "Six Spiritual Principles of Caregiving" and learn how these principles can sustain us and help to mitigate caregiver burnout. (The "Six Spiritual Principles of Caregiving" are listed below.)

It’s really possible to be a healthy caregiver!

 

  
  

Cynthia Burke, Director of Outreach and Big Group Facilitator, is an ordained interfaith minister and a founding staff member of Friends In Deed. Cynthia has been facilitating Big Groups for several years and remains actively involved in the New York City Family Caregiver Coalition on behalf of Friends In Deed. 

 

 

Kate Lamb is a crisis counselor at Friends In Deed and has been counseling caregivers for the past two years.

 

Sheila Warnock, Founder & President of ShareTheCaregiving, Inc. Co-author Share The Care, (How To Organize a Group to Care for Someone Who Is Seriously Ill), Simon & Schuster Fireside Books, 1995, 2004.  In 2003, Sheila left an advertising career to combine her life experiences as a three-time primary caregiver and co-author, with her creative skills, to establish a non-profit organization focused on solving a global caregiving crisis.  The mission is to provide a “better quality of life” for both care recipients and their caregivers. Share the Caregiving Website

 

WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU.

All services are free of charge.  Donations are gratefully accepted.

 All workshops are subject to change or cancellation, please call to confirm.

 

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES OF CAREGIVING

1.) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

Caring for friends or family members who are very ill, helpless, fragile, or frightened, can be exhausting physically, emotionally and spiritually.  That’s why it’s essential to take care of yourself first, so that you’re able to care for others out of your overflow.  One way to take care of yourself is to come to Friends In Deed for support.

2.) FOCUS ON CARE NOT CURE

As a caregiver, it’s important to recognize the distinction between healing and curing.  In the simplest terms, curing is changing what is (i.e. the elimination of a disease) while healing implies the ability to relate differently to things as they are.  Your role as a caregiver is to deal with things as they are and be clear about the task at hand.

3.) WORK TO BE IN THE MOMENT

Getting caught in what’s happened in the past, or what you imagine will happen in the future, robs you of the resources you need for the present moment of action.  In addition, with some caregiving situations, you may be faced with circumstances that elicit your fears. The person for whom you’re caring may already be dealing with his or her own fear.  You don’t want to add your anxiety to the mix.  Staying in the present moment is great a way to help tame your fears.

4.) EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS APPROPRIATELY

As a caregiver, you may find people behaving in ways that are difficult to handle.  First of all, it’s important to acknowledge that usually the circumstances of the illness are creating the behavior.  Your job is to not take it personally.  However, if you’re in a situation where you are compelled to express your feelings, be sure to say how you feel without making the person you’re caring for “wrong.”  The best way to do this is with “I” messages, not “You” messages.  (i.e. “I get the feeling that…” instead of “You make me feel…” )

5.) SEEK TO FIND MEANING IN THE EXPERIENCE

Even in the most difficult and challenging situations you can find meaning and value and purpose.  You can always see that the roles could be reversed and imagine how you would like to be treated.  One of the things you’ll discover, as a caregiver, is that the quality of life is not determined by the circumstances but how you and the person for whom you care perceive the circumstances.

6.) UNDERSTAND THAT NOTHING IS GOING WRONG

Given our culture, this may be the toughest principle to understand.  It’s very easy to get caught in “if only she’d had taken the test sooner…” or “the doctor should have…” or “why didn’t he…” Those are very human reactions to frustrating and sad circumstances.  Spiritually speaking everything is unfolding exactly as it must at all times.  We don’t know how the story is supposed to go.  We reduce suffering all around if we can be with what is objectively, impartially and without judgment.  There is real power in not having to fix or change anything.  

 

 

 

 

Laughter Yoga Workshop with Francine Shore on July 21st at 7pm.

FRIENDS IN DEED

SPECIAL WORKSHOP

 

LAUGHTER YOGA

FIND OUT WHAT EVERYONE IS LAUGHING ABOUT!!!

 

facilitated by

FRANCINE SHORE

 

DATE:        THURSDAY, JULY 21, 2011

TIME:        7:00PM – 8:00PM

PLACE:        FRIENDS IN DEED

                    594 BROADWAY, SUITE 706

PHONE:       212-925-2009           

 

Join laughter yoga teacher and coach and counselor, Francine Shore for this healthful, innovative and fun cardio-vascular exercise.

Laughter Yoga has been in the news a lot and (performed standing up or seated -- no yoga mats) is based on yogic principles that involve: laughter exercises, some stretching and intermittent deep breathing.  In these challenging times, laughter yoga is the perfect elixir to reduce stress!

Laughter Yoga has many health benefits: It strengthens our immune system, lowers blood pressure, releases endorphins, decreases depression and anxiety, is a natural pain analgesic, boasts team morale, increases productivity and creativity, alleviates arthritis, asthma, etc.

 

 

FRANCINE SHORE, a practitioner in the field of Laughter Yoga and counseling, is dedicated to sharing the benefits of Laughter Yoga with adults, seniors, and children across the nation. Francine has led Laugher Yoga workshops for corporate America and the healthcare world, including workshops at many hospitals and organizations. Francine has received training from Dr. Madan Kataria, the originator of Laughter Yoga, and is the recipient of Dr. Kataria's Laughter Ambassador Award. As Event Director, she spearheaded World Laughter Day for many years. She has also been a presenter at the American Society of Aging conference in Washington, DC and several conferences on Ageing.  Her work has been featured in a range of media publications and TV programs. For more information visit her website at www.grabbagiraffe.com.

 

WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU.

All services are free of charge.  Donations are gratefully accepted.
All workshops are subject to change or cancellation, please call to confirm.

 

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES OF CAREGIVING - April 28th workshop at Friends In Deed

FRIENDS IN DEED

SPECIAL WORKSHOP

 

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES

OF CAREGIVING

with 

CYNTHIA BURKE 

 

DATE:               Thursday, April 28th, 2011

TIME:                7:00pm – 8:30pm

PLACE:            FRIENDS IN DEED

                        594 Broadway, Suite 706

PHONE:          212-925-2009           

 

Are you a caregiver struggling to find ways to take care of yourself and another at the same time?

Do you feel that even taking time to come to this workshop feels difficult?

If you are a caregiver looking for ways to experience greater sustainability then this workshop was designed just for you. During this interactive workshop we will explore the ‘Six Spiritual Principles of Caregiving’ and learn how these principles can sustain us and help to mitigate caregiver burnout.

It’s really possible to be a healthy caregiver!

 

  

Cynthia Burke, Director of Outreach and Big Group Facilitator, is an ordained interfaith minister and a founding staff member of Friends In Deed. Cynthia has been facilitating Big Groups for several years and remains actively involved in the New York City Family Caregiver Coalition on behalf of Friends In Deed. 

 

WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU.

All services are free of charge.  Donations are gratefully accepted.

 All workshops are subject to change or cancellation, please call to confirm.

 

SIX SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES OF CAREGIVING

1.) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

Caring for friends or family members who are very ill, helpless, fragile, or frightened, can be exhausting physically, emotionally and spiritually.  That’s why it’s essential to take care of yourself first, so that you’re able to care for others out of your overflow.  One way to take care of yourself is to come to Friends In Deed for support.

2.) FOCUS ON CARE NOT CURE

As a caregiver, it’s important to recognize the distinction between healing and curing.  In the simplest terms, curing is changing what is (i.e. the elimination of a disease) while healing implies the ability to relate differently to things as they are.  Your role as a caregiver is to deal with things as they are and be clear about the task at hand.

3.) WORK TO BE IN THE MOMENT

Getting caught in what’s happened in the past, or what you imagine will happen in the future, robs you of the resources you need for the present moment of action.  In addition, with some caregiving situations, you may be faced with circumstances that elicit your fears. The person for whom you’re caring may already be dealing with his or her own fear.  You don’t want to add your anxiety to the mix.  Staying in the present moment is great a way to help tame your fears.

4.) EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS APPROPRIATELY

As a caregiver, you may find people behaving in ways that are difficult to handle.  First of all, it’s important to acknowledge that usually the circumstances of the illness are creating the behavior.  Your job is to not take it personally.  However, if you’re in a situation where you are compelled to express your feelings, be sure to say how you feel without making the person you’re caring for “wrong.”  The best way to do this is with “I” messages, not “You” messages.  (i.e. “I get the feeling that…” instead of “You make me feel…” )

5.) SEEK TO FIND MEANING IN THE EXPERIENCE

Even in the most difficult and challenging situations you can find meaning and value and purpose.  You can always see that the roles could be reversed and imagine how you would like to be treated.  One of the things you’ll discover, as a caregiver, is that the quality of life is not determined by the circumstances but how you and the person for whom you care perceive the circumstances.

6.) UNDERSTAND THAT NOTHING IS GOING WRONG

Given our culture, this may be the toughest principle to understand.  It’s very easy to get caught in “if only she’d had taken the test sooner…” or “the doctor should have…” or “why didn’t he…” Those are very human reactions to frustrating and sad circumstances.  Spiritually speaking everything is unfolding exactly as it must at all times.  We don’t know how the story is supposed to go.  We reduce suffering all around if we can be with what is objectively, impartially and without judgment.  There is real power in not having to fix or change anything.  

 

 

 

MASTERY WEEKEND - April 29th, April 30th and May 1st... Limited enrollment.

FRIENDS IN DEED

PRESENTS

 

THE MASTERY

an intensive weekend workshop 

with

SALLY FISHER AND ROBERT LEVITHAN

LIMITED ENROLLMENT 

 

DATES: 

 FRIDAY, April 29th at 6PM

SATURDAY, April 30th at 10AM

SUNDAY, May 1st, at 10AM

PLACE:

 FRIENDS IN DEED

594 BROADWAY, SUITE 706

 

The Mastery is an intensive weekend workshop founded in the belief that when we have an experience of self-empowerment, the circumstances of our lives, including HIV or cancer, do not necessarily have to determine the quality of our lives.

In a time of crisis we explore the possibilities of living full, rich and empowered lives.

The workshop is designed to release the relationships and patterns that keep us tied to the past and undermine our self-worth.  The work is accomplished through one-on-one interaction between trained facilitators and participants, group support, emotional exercises and visualizations, which are used for self-discovery.

The Mastery is not a belief system -- each participant spends quality time and receives nurturing support to discover his or her own self-worth, manner of self-expression and uniqueness.

LIMITED ENROLLMENT.

TO PARTICIPATE, YOU MUST SIGN UP AND COMMIT TO THE ENTIRE WEEKEND.

FOR MORE INFORMATION AND REGISTRATION,

PLEASE SIGN UP AT THE FRONT DESK AFTER ANY BIG GROUP. 

WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU.

All services are free of charge.  Donations are gratefully accepted.

All workshops are subject to change or cancellation, please call to confirm.